At last count, the average wedding in America costs upwards of $20,000. While it is your special day, you might not be willing to spend that much to celebrate it. Here are some tips to cut down on those costs without sacrificing any of the magic.

1. Off-Peak Hours

Most weddings happen from the months of May to October. If possible, schedule the date during one of the "off" months to make things like the cake, the DJ, and the venue cheaper. A January or February wedding will most likely be the cheapest time of year, though might not be all that appealing. Clustering the date around the outside of those dates-late April, or early November-won't cut down on the cost quite as much but still keeps the season right. If you already wanted a winter wedding, so much the better.

2. Trim the Fat

Wedding invitations are a bizarre, complicated ritual in today's society. We often invite people not out of desire but a (falsely) perceived necessity. On average, the typical wedding has about 157 guests. That means you have to have a venue for 157 people, seats for 157 people, favors for 157 people, and so on. Consider trimming your guest list from those you think would be insulted if they weren't invited (here's a hint: they won't be) to those who you really want to be there. If you like, keep the wedding small and let the reception be a bit bigger.

3. Say Cheese!

With the advent of low-cost, high-quality digital cameras, the need for professional photographers to immortalize your event is not as great as it used to be. Have a friend or family member get some shots before, during, and after the ceremony, and pick your favorite to have framed. If no one you know has a decent quality camera, or if you still want the expert angle, contact a local university or art school and see if one of their photography students will work for you. They will often work for free or low cost, in exchange for the opportunity to have some work to add to their portfolio.

4. Return the Favors

While wedding favors are a nice touch and nice way to show your appreciation for the support of your friends and family, they don't have to be extravagant to be thoughtful. Handmade cards, little bags of dollar store candy with colorful ribbons, and other things are nice touches that won't break the bank.

5. Ignore the Hype

It's easy to get caught up in the madness of bridal magazines and Hollywood weddings, encouraging us to go out and get just this dress or just that venue to have the perfect wedding. But remember, the perfect wedding is one that is meaningful to you as a couple. The dress, the flowers, the rings-all of that is just icing on the cake, extra frills. Don't get so caught up in it that you stop seeing the forest for the trees.